SELF-CARE SECRETS – “What Really Matters to You? With Dr. Z and Professor P

Howard Brown: 00:00:04

Hello, it's Howard Brown. It's the Shining Brightly

Howard Brown: 00:00:07

Show. I'm so glad you're here with us today. I've got some

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good friends that we're going to talk to you today. And it's

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Professor P and Dr. Z. Welcome. Welcome. How are you?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:00:19

Great. Thanks for having us. Yeah.

Howard Brown: 00:00:21

Oh, my goodness, look at the smile on Dr. Z. I

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just it's contagious. It's just unbelievable. So, alright, I'm

Howard Brown: 00:00:28

going to try something different today. Instead of reading your

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bios, which you both have great bios, I'm going to play a game

Howard Brown: 00:00:34

called, he said, she said, and you're going to basically give

Howard Brown: 00:00:38

the bios of each other. So definitely you were first.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:00:42

Sure, sure. So Professor P. Patrick.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:00:46

He was born in Milwaukee. And he is the middle son of he has two

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:00:52

brothers and a younger sister. And something about Professor P,

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:00:56

you may not know is he has a PhD in adversity.

Howard Brown: 00:01:02

That got a PhD there. All right, Professor.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:08

Dr. Z has two brothers and a sister.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:12

Fun fact. Her father is African. And her mother is African

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:18

American. And she loves to say, being a forensic pathologist.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:24

She loves to say that she transitioned because she came a

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:28

life coach. She transitioned from death into life.

Howard Brown: 00:01:34

Incredible. Oh my god. Well, welcome. I'm so

Howard Brown: 00:01:37

excited. We've got some so much to talk about here. But I gotta

Howard Brown: 00:01:41

now that you just actually did those intros. I have it. How did

Howard Brown: 00:01:45

you guys meet? Because now that now man, I got my the guests,

Howard Brown: 00:01:48

the audience is going to want to how did you guys meet?

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:01:51

Can I ask you one thing? I do have

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:01:53

three brothers. Actually, I do have another brother.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:56

I'm sorry. everybody forgot about

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:01:58

the half brother.

Howard Brown: 00:02:00

Let me reintroduce you to maybe you should meet.

Howard Brown: 00:02:03

Alright, so tell. I mean, I'm curious. How did you guys meet?

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:06

All right. So I'm a doctor. But back

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:11

in 2005, I said, You know what, I want to get involved in real

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:15

estate. I wanted to become a real estate investor. So I

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:18

bought some rental properties. But I also joined our local real

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:22

estate group. And that is actually how I met Patrick. So I

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:27

always say Join your local real estate group, you'll get a house

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:02:31

and you might just get a spouse.

Howard Brown: 00:02:33

I love that. All right. That's an awesome story.

Howard Brown: 00:02:37

The other thing I think that we talked about in the green room

Howard Brown: 00:02:40

is you guys are learning German together. Yeah, yeah. How are

Howard Brown: 00:02:46

we? How are we doing with that? Seamless? Good, very

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:02:49

good very well.

Howard Brown: 00:02:55

All right. So from from real estate, and from a

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doctor forensics. Life coach helped me connect the dots for

Howard Brown: 00:03:06

me, give me that journey.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:07

Oh, man. Well, Howard, you know, the

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:10

work that I did I do. I still work as a forensic pathologist.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:13

And and it was really unfortunate around 2015 or so we

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:17

started to see the rise of these overdose deaths, heroin, and now

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:23

fentanyl. And unfortunately, it was mostly younger people. I

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:28

work in one of the wealthiest I think it's the wealthiest County

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:31

in Wisconsin. And you had all of these young people who had all

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:35

this privilege, right? We're making these life and death

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:38

decisions to use drugs. And so that inspired me to actually

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:43

write a book called Zombie effect. And because of that,

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:48

obviously, I was ended the line, the buck stops here. So I wanted

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:53

to work. It's something where I could help to prevent people

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:03:57

from winding up on my autopsy table. And that's how I got into

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:04:01

life coaching, helping to actually help people make a

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:04:05

decision for life, instead of a decision that could potentially

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:04:10

take the life that they have.

Howard Brown: 00:04:12

Now will will include the link to the book

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that's on the effects in the show notes and on the posts and

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stuff like that. And Professor P for you for real estate

Howard Brown: 00:04:20

entrepreneurism. How'd you get to life coaching.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:23

Yeah, so I Howard, I was many years in

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:27

the trades, and eventually I got older, I got downsized. I'm

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:31

like, Okay, what am I going to do now? I didn't want to be

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:34

driving Uber the rest of my life and I always had an interest in

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:37

real estate. And that's how we met fast forward to 2009. And it

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:43

took a year we were going to the same event for a whole year and

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:47

never said a word to each other. I've always I've always had an

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:54

interest in you know, the stock market investing making money

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:04:58

that entrepreneurial lug that gets in some of us. So I said,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:03

Hey, this is a great next chapter vehicle. I took a

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:06

coaching programme locally here in Milwaukee. And I learned and

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:10

my back was to the wall, I was highly motivated, I became

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:13

successful. At the same time, I started lending my 401k money

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:17

that I rolled over my previous job, and I was doing two things.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:20

I was like a bank lender, and a house flipper. And then

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:26

eventually, I was shadowing Dr. Z, here's Elda, my wife and

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:32

like, hey, there's something to this coaching stuff. So I'm

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:05:35

gonna give it a go. And here we are.

Howard Brown: 00:05:37

I love it. I love it. So so take take us through

Howard Brown: 00:05:40

you've you've launched self care one on one, the masterclass take

Howard Brown: 00:05:45

us deep inside there, because I'm part of your, your network

Howard Brown: 00:05:47

as well. And I'm learning so but take take my audience into what

Howard Brown: 00:05:51

what you've developed.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:05:52

Yeah, so it's a four week programme.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:05:55

So it's pretty intensive, you get two coaches, because the

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:05:58

both of us are in it. And it's really the first part is about

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:03

discovering, really and honing in on who you are, and what

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:07

matters to you your values. And then everything, your goals,

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:11

your dreams align with those values. Because when everything

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:16

aligns with your values, it's so much easier to achieve those

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:20

goals. And so then we also work on the life wheel in terms of

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:24

prioritising again, what really matters to you. Because then you

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:29

make sure that the ladder that you're climbing is actually

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:32

attached or leaning against the wall that you want to end up

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:36

with. Because for me to with being a doctor and the whole

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:40

burnout, I was like, I want I was looking for something more.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:44

And then really looking at your mindset. And also studying and

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:50

getting the correlation between how your thoughts, the way that

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:06:54

you're thinking, actually is creating the life that you

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:00

currently now want to change. But the good thing is that you

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:05

recognise that your thoughts, once you change your thoughts

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:09

and align them to your goals, then your thoughts create the

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:14

life that you are pursuing. So it's really just helping people

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:20

to get all of those butterflies flying in the same direction.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:26

And, and actually the vehicle is self care. So self care is more

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:31

than just getting massages and going and sitting by the beach

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:36

all day. That's, that's part of it. But it's also can be so much

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:41

more. So we're helping people to discover that by tapping into

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:45

the wellspring of a talents, creativity, skills and resources

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:07:51

that are already within them.

Howard Brown: 00:07:54

Well, you know, what I find unique and really

Howard Brown: 00:07:56

impressive is that you do get a twofer. You actually get both of

Howard Brown: 00:08:00

you. And I liked that because you're getting the female

Howard Brown: 00:08:04

perspective and the male perspective whether it's, you

Howard Brown: 00:08:06

know, the women are from Venus, and the men are from Mars, we

Howard Brown: 00:08:08

probably are. But I like that. And I think that it's for

Howard Brown: 00:08:14

individuals as well as you you have couples to in the

Howard Brown: 00:08:16

programme. So I think it's amazing for couples to get

Howard Brown: 00:08:20

aligned, and reconnected as well. So very impressive. Now,

Howard Brown: 00:08:25

you had some big news, you want to share?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:08:30

Sharing is caring. How are you?

Howard Brown: 00:08:32

Yes, it is.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:34

Yeah, so So the cart is open so people

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:37

can actually now book that one on one that discovery session

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:42

with us. And then we'll explain more about what's involved. And

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:47

then they can start start working with us right away. So

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:51

that's really our big our big reveal. Is that book that

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:55

discovery session and find out how you can start to really

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:08:59

create the life of your dreams.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:01

Yeah, they can do that by going and

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:05

joining our self care secrets Facebook group. Yeah, they go to

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:09

our website, we'll put like you said, you're gonna put that in

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:12

the show notes later. That's the starting point. Or they can

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:15

connect with us. We'll talk about that later.

Howard Brown: 00:09:17

Yeah, sure. Sure. So now are these their virtual?

Howard Brown: 00:09:22

Are they zoom classes? Or are they you have some in person

Howard Brown: 00:09:25

locally? No, no,

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:27

they're there right now. And they're all

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:28

on online. Right? Yeah. Okay. And

Howard Brown: 00:09:31

and you do private and as well as group or the

Howard Brown: 00:09:33

group.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:34

Right now we're doing one on one. But

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:37

yes, eventually we will move to a to a group model.

Howard Brown: 00:09:42

Okay, well, I think that's really important.

Howard Brown: 00:09:45

So and then you've launched a website and it's self care

Howard Brown: 00:09:48

secrets.com.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:50

The website is actually secrets to

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:09:52

self care.com.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:54

We couldn't get self care. So

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:09:57

because it was already taken, abusing the hands. Gotta go.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:10:02

Domain gremlins.

Howard Brown: 00:10:04

All right. So it's secrets to to, to self care.

Howard Brown: 00:10:09

Okay, perfect. That's okay. As long as they can search and find

Howard Brown: 00:10:13

you want to make sure I get it right. All right. So I have to

Howard Brown: 00:10:17

say that, you know my story very well, I basically went, you

Howard Brown: 00:10:22

know, went for a second time stage four diagnosis of colon

Howard Brown: 00:10:24

cancer. And I went from cancer to COVID to write the shining

Howard Brown: 00:10:27

brightly book to take people from darkness to light, and live

Howard Brown: 00:10:31

a resilient life with with hope. And one of the things that I'm

Howard Brown: 00:10:35

noticing, and I want your opinions on this is that we're

Howard Brown: 00:10:38

coming out of COVID. And people's lives are changed. You

Howard Brown: 00:10:42

know, we're hybrid from work or not, you know, COVID still

Howard Brown: 00:10:47

around, it's not to get Baxter not. But what I did notice, and

Howard Brown: 00:10:50

I read an article about this is that one of the big things or

Howard Brown: 00:10:54

two big things that came out of COVID were loneliness, and

Howard Brown: 00:10:58

depression. And I just I, you know, I think that people are

Howard Brown: 00:11:04

trying to figure it out. And this is what you This is why,

Howard Brown: 00:11:07

you know, the self care starting there really matters. So any

Howard Brown: 00:11:11

commentary on that?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:14

Yeah, so to give you an idea how it

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:16

all came about, for us, we've had adversity we're both cancer

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:19

survivors like you, all three of us are in that same fraternity.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:23

My adversities go pretty deep. I had a pancreatic tumour, I

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:28

survived that, who does that open heart surgery last year?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:32

And as we're finding our way, with, what do we want to coach,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:36

who do we want to coach, I said, it's a no brainer for us to be

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:40

coaching self care, because that's our wheelhouse, one of

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:44

our wheelhouse. So that's where, you know, a quick, that's why we

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:11:48

ended up there.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:11:49

Yeah. And one thing I want to talk

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:11:50

about is the long the loneliness. So working as a

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:11:53

forensic pathologist, I'm seeing that we're increased rates of

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:11:55

suicide, increased rates of homicide, unfortunately. And I

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:00

think there's just that uncertainty. People just are

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:04

having a hard time managing uncertainty. And I think because

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:08

in our culture, it's all about control, and being in control

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:12

and knowing how to, you know, direct and, and be in control of

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:17

everything. And so to be faced with such an uncertain

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:12:21

situation, I think, is what's driving a lot of that. Yeah. So

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:25

with that said, Howard, what we're

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:26

looking to do our vision is to create a directory within our

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:31

secrets to self care.com. People like you who are coaching in

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:36

your area, your expertise, we're going to have our goal is to

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:41

have a lot of people in that directory so that when people do

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:45

come to our Facebook group, and they need a specialist, we've

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:49

got an ADHD person, doctor. So we're going to have all these

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:53

different people in the directory so that when people

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:56

come to the group, we can say, Look, if you've got something

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:12:59

you need to reach out, you need to help with something, you

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:13:01

gotta you go through cancer, talk to Howard. He's gonna he's

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:13:05

got he's lived it twice.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:13:07

Right? And many health care

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:13:09

professionals are suffering from burnout. Exactly. The need is so

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:13:13

great.

Howard Brown: 00:13:15

Oh, the nursing and healthcare profession is

Howard Brown: 00:13:18

gonna get devastated. the teaching profession, you know,

Howard Brown: 00:13:22

the the first responder profession, it's, I don't know

Howard Brown: 00:13:25

how we're going to recover. I'm worried. I'm worried about that.

Howard Brown: 00:13:28

But I want to resonate, first of all, that I didn't know that

Howard Brown: 00:13:32

this resource directory, oh, my god, that was so important if

Howard Brown: 00:13:35

they come and join the network to be able to be able to what do

Howard Brown: 00:13:38

I do next? Right, who's been vetted by you guys? That

Howard Brown: 00:13:42

actually I can refer them to? Because you're right, I have a

Howard Brown: 00:13:45

zillion cancer resources. It doesn't matter the type of

Howard Brown: 00:13:48

cancer when you get that diagnosis, you have cancer,

Howard Brown: 00:13:51

which I actually and others called we have cancer, because

Howard Brown: 00:13:54

it affects more than you, your caregiver, your families and

Howard Brown: 00:13:57

friends. Is that the ability to what do I do next? Right Do we

Howard Brown: 00:14:02

do live in a digital world and Googling Dr. Google is not the

Howard Brown: 00:14:06

idea because I if I Googled Dr. Google and said I had 44% chance

Howard Brown: 00:14:10

of winning six months. That doesn't help. Doesn't help

Howard Brown: 00:14:13

because only God knows your number. And then the other thing

Howard Brown: 00:14:16

that doctors see what you really want to emphasise If you are

Howard Brown: 00:14:22

uncertain fear, which I actually call darkness, okay, others call

Howard Brown: 00:14:27

it scarcity. You've got to lift up yourself. And it begins with

Howard Brown: 00:14:32

self care equaling self love. Right and began. That's the

Howard Brown: 00:14:37

first stop and I actually did take it a step further, as you

Howard Brown: 00:14:40

both know is that once you actually get on some solid

Howard Brown: 00:14:43

ground yourself, go help others. Right. And this is this is the

Howard Brown: 00:14:47

point that you guys are doing you are in solid ground and you

Howard Brown: 00:14:50

are going to help others and it's so beautiful and you are

Howard Brown: 00:14:53

sharing your light to others and to get them unstuck and back so

Howard Brown: 00:14:59

they can go They live their lives, get everything there, as

Howard Brown: 00:15:02

you said, the life wheel in order. But hopefully they'll

Howard Brown: 00:15:05

take some of that and go share their light with others and in

Howard Brown: 00:15:08

their communities. Because that's, that's really important

Howard Brown: 00:15:11

to carry on and keep the light flowing. As far as at least

Howard Brown: 00:15:14

that's what I tell you in my book. And I know you're an all

Howard Brown: 00:15:16

of us believe in that very, very much. So this is, I think it's

Howard Brown: 00:15:21

going to be fantastic. And I'm just such a big supporter of you

Howard Brown: 00:15:25

guys. We're so aligned. You guys ready to do the shining,

Howard Brown: 00:15:28

brightly moment? One thing, I just wanted to add one thing

Howard Brown: 00:15:32

first, okay.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:34

One thing when I slowed down from

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:36

doing the real estate stuff, I was able to get off that mouse

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:40

wheel. And I gotta tell you, one thing I noticed was I'm very

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:45

analytical. And I noticed how we are all sped up. And once I had

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:50

a chance to jump off, I'm like, Oh, my God, that's, I can see

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:54

why we're all getting burned out. Because, you know,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:15:57

corporate world, the world we live in, pushes us to squeeze

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:16:01

out every little thing they can out of everybody. And everybody

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:16:04

comes burnt out, because becomes burnt out or whatever, they have

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:16:07

problems because they've been sped up. And they're not living

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:16:11

that life that they truly want to live.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:13

And you talked about raising your

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:15

own boat, you know, by your now you didn't say bootstraps, but

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:19

it really is about community. And the more that we can reach

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:23

out, because many people need that support and don't aren't

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:26

comfortable even asking for support. So actually reaching

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:30

out and offering support and just letting people know that

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:16:33

you are available to help.

Howard Brown: 00:16:35

I want to tell you a quick secret. So I will do the

Howard Brown: 00:16:38

shining brightly moment upcoming. But I, one of the

Howard Brown: 00:16:41

things I was I was coaching. And this woman was saying that. I

Howard Brown: 00:16:47

don't know if I'm I'm doing gratitude, right. And it was

Howard Brown: 00:16:51

really funny. And I said, Well, are you being kind each day?

Howard Brown: 00:16:54

Yes. Are you giving person? Yes. Are you trying to heal yourself

Howard Brown: 00:16:59

and others? Yes. So I said, you're doing gratitude pretty

Howard Brown: 00:17:02

well. I said, you're not you know, you're doing it pretty

Howard Brown: 00:17:05

well. And I want one of the things that I use as a technique

Howard Brown: 00:17:10

is that I love that when you're stuck. If you go help someone

Howard Brown: 00:17:15

else, right and toward them, go buy them a cup of coffee, take a

Howard Brown: 00:17:19

walk with them, bring them a meal or a smoothie, you're

Howard Brown: 00:17:23

taking the pressure off yourself, and the endorphins

Howard Brown: 00:17:26

light up in a whole different way. A whole different

Howard Brown: 00:17:28

vibration, right? That actually can help you because people are

Howard Brown: 00:17:33

it's a messy world. It's noisy. There's a lot of negativity and

Howard Brown: 00:17:37

being a discipline. I call this mental toughness to weed out the

Howard Brown: 00:17:40

negativity. That's a discipline. Okay, I mean, we can get all

Howard Brown: 00:17:44

consumed in this indictment, we can get all consumed in the war

Howard Brown: 00:17:47

and Ukraine and school shootings. And you gotta be able

Howard Brown: 00:17:50

to put up that that Rhino skin and say, Listen, I'll taste it a

Howard Brown: 00:17:54

little bit. But I don't want a full meal of it. There's no

Howard Brown: 00:17:57

reason to take in a full meal and have it consume you. There's

Howard Brown: 00:18:00

just more important things to do. So yeah,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:18:02

you just described the gratitude.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:18:04

We'll see you create your own gratitude.

Howard Brown: 00:18:08

We'll exactly, but no, but gratitude. And so one of

Howard Brown: 00:18:13

the things that the last chapter might book Patrick, which you're

Howard Brown: 00:18:17

a big promoter and fan as well, is that there's a four letter

Howard Brown: 00:18:21

word out there that got me through the worst of times. And

Howard Brown: 00:18:26

it's H O P E, Hope. Hope hope was my fuel to see my daughter

Howard Brown: 00:18:31

graduate high school, see your graduate college, see her be a

Howard Brown: 00:18:35

TV reporter in Missoula, Montana every night on the app, and also

Howard Brown: 00:18:40

to be able to get my butt on the basketball court and to

Howard Brown: 00:18:43

celebrate my 29th wedding anniversary with Lisa which we

Howard Brown: 00:18:45

did on Monday. Great memories and milestones hope hope is that

Howard Brown: 00:18:50

fuel for me and so I what is what is your fuel?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:18:54

It's funny that you mentioned hope

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:18:55

because I just posted about hope on the self care secrets

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:18:59

Facebook group.

Howard Brown: 00:19:01

Oh, we're in alignment. Let's go. Let's go

Howard Brown: 00:19:05

check that out. It's it's awesome. All right, let's put on

Howard Brown: 00:19:07

our glasses. Come on. Let's do it. So now who has white

Howard Brown: 00:19:12

matching glasses we do. All righty. All right. So this is

Howard Brown: 00:19:16

our shining brightly spotlight. I want to repeat how to get in

Howard Brown: 00:19:20

touch with you like your website and Facebook and and then I want

Howard Brown: 00:19:23

each of you to leave me with some inspirational final

Howard Brown: 00:19:26

comments

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:19:29

okay, so you want us to give our

Howard Brown: 00:19:31

why how does someone get in touch with you?

Howard Brown: 00:19:33

What's the best way to get in touch with you

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:19:35

www dot secrets to self care.com

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:19:40

That's That's how our website

Howard Brown: 00:19:42

and on Facebook they search for you how on

Howard Brown: 00:19:46

Facebook still by our names. So those are self care one on one

Howard Brown: 00:19:49

it comes up to right.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:19:51

Oh this Yeah, this this self care,

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:19:54

self care secrets,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:19:55

right? If you're on Facebook, and

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:19:57

you're looking for our group, simply type in self care secrets

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:02

under groups, that little search bar will come up.

Howard Brown: 00:20:07

All right, who wants to close this out first?

Howard Brown: 00:20:10

Ladies first. Alrighty. Great break, bring the inspiration.

Howard Brown: 00:20:15

Okay, okay.

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:20:17

Just remember that you have so much

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:20:21

to offer the world. And the only thing that stops you is your own

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:20:26

mind and your own limiting beliefs. So start taking those

Dr. Z (aka Zelda Okia MD): 00:20:30

steps towards letting your light shine brightly.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:34

Like Nice. So, purpose leads to

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:40

fulfilment. It's interesting before we started this coaching

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:43

journey, a couple years into our relationship, I said this, Ella,

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:47

I could see she wasn't happy. I'm like, What are you

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:50

passionate about? What's your purpose? What do you what do you

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:53

really want to do? I love to ask this question. What would you do

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:20:56

that you love to do so much? That you would do it for free?

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:21:00

And last comment. We're in legacy make a difference mode.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:21:05

I'm getting chills just saying this stuff. That's it.

Howard Brown: 00:21:11

I love it. I love it. Exclamation point. Mic drop

Howard Brown: 00:21:14

moment. Alright, so for me, you can reach me at shining

Howard Brown: 00:21:18

brightly.com The speaking the podcast the book and my advocacy

Howard Brown: 00:21:22

work. I love doing this show because helping people is what

Howard Brown: 00:21:27

it's all about. And if we shine brightly, just a little bit each

Howard Brown: 00:21:31

day for ourselves, for others and for our communities. The

Howard Brown: 00:21:34

world will be a better place. Dr. Z Prof. P love to have you

Howard Brown: 00:21:39

thank you for being such great guests. Everyone go check out

Howard Brown: 00:21:42

their, their their website and the service and I'll refer them

Howard Brown: 00:21:46

to others. Okay, they can help you.

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:21:49

It's been a journey. The journey is

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:21:52

just beginning. We love working with you and look forward to the

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:21:55

future. It's

Howard Brown: 00:21:56

one step one step in front of the other. We're

Howard Brown: 00:21:59

going together. You got it

essor P (aka Patrick Scherer): 00:22:00

clearly very bright.

Howard Brown: 00:22:03

Absolutely because we're wearing our shades. Take