Episode 66

MY RESILIENCE CODE With Host Howard Brown

In a solo show I reveal what it takes to “GET BACK UP AGAIN AND AGAIN”! In Episode 66 on Valentines Day 2024 on the Shining Brightly Podcast Show (links in the comments) titled, “MY RESILIENCE CODE”. I state loud and proud that “WE ARE ALL WORKS IN PROGRESS”. Each new day we can choose to be an all-star dad, mom, brighter, sister, friend coworker and stranger. RESLIIENCE YOUR ABILITY AND CAPACITY TO RECOVER FROM WHAT LIFE THROWS AT YOU! ITS YOUR BOUNCE BACK UP! Check out Dr Robert Wicks, he wrote the forward to my memoir Shining Brightly. The book is called Bounce! Then SHINE BRIGHTLY A LITTLE EACH DAY FOR OURSELVES, OTHERS AND IN OUR COMMUNITIES TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE. Come download, listen, share and review this powerful and impactful show.

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About the guest - Howard Brown is an author, Silicon Valley entrepreneur, interfaith peacemaker, two-time stage IV cancer survivor and healthcare advocate. For more than three decades, Howard’s business innovations, leadership principles, mentoring and his resilience in beating cancer against long odds have made him a sought-after speaker and consultant for businesses, nonprofits, congregations, and community groups. In his business career, Howard was a pioneer in helping to launch a series of technology startups before he co-founded two social networks that were the first to connect religious communities around the world. He served his alma matter —Babson College, ranked by US News as the nation’s top college for entrepreneurship—as a trustee and president of Babson’s worldwide alumni network. His hard-earned wisdom about resilience after beating cancer twice has led him to become a nationally known patient advocate and “cancer whisperer” to many families. Visit Howard at ShiningBrightly.com to learn more about his ongoing work and contact him. Through that website, you also will find resources to help you shine brightly in your own corner of the world. Howard, his wife Lisa and daughter Emily currently reside in Michigan.

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Transcript
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Hello, it's Howard brown. It's a Shining Brightly

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Show you get me solo today. So excited to be here. And let me

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give a shout out to some supporters here. So my publisher

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front edge publishing, read the spirit magazine, my podcasts

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house amplify you and the speaker's Academy from Speaker

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slam. So just appreciate all your support along the way.

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Anyways, today's show is very important. It's actually called

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My resilience code. Now, we all need resilience, it's that get

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up and go get out of bed. It's that energy that we need. And it

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can ebb and flow during the day and through periods of of the

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week, and also through our lives. And so resilience is a

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big buzzword out there. And I'll give you a quick definition

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here. So resilience, the capacity to withstand or recover

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quickly from difficulties. It's also called toughness, it can be

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called mental toughness, it can be physical toughness. So it's

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that bounce back or that spring back, get back up again into

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life into business, relationships, health. One of my

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inspiring authors, who wrote the foreword of shining brightly of

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my book is Dr. Robert Wicks, I call him the godfather of

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resilience. And he's probably written now 30, some odd books,

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but one of the books that stood out for me, if you're looking

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for a really great read about kind of building back your, your

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toughness, and your resilience is called bounce. So check that

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out. And it's Dr. Robert wicks. And the book is called bounce.

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So what does it meant to be resilient? And resilience is

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really a process. Okay? It's about adapting yourself, in

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difficult circumstances, challenging life experiences,

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mental, emotional, physical, could be just, you know, outside

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forces, could be theoretical, could be your thoughts could be

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things that work. So there are internal and external demands

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that are placed on you. And they actually have different levels

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of importance in your life. So resilient people, okay, are

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successful, because they are persistent. They can be polite

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and persistent. You can be a bulldog and persistent. But how

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do you get through those difficulties, to be able to

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reach points of success, or to reach your goals or to reach

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your milestones. So people now talk about transformation,

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growth mindset, overcoming some negative emotions, overcoming

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physical things. And this is all has to do with positivity, and

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being able to build in your confidence and confidence has a

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lot to do with that. So I'm not an expert. I'm a lived

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experience guy, right? I've been knocked down to my core with to

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stage four cancer diagnosis, as pretty far getting knocked down

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emotionally, physically, in relationship financially.

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Anyway, you cut it, it wasn't too fun. And what I usually like

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to say is that you have to build back up. And sometimes that is

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by taking two steps back five steps back a step sideways. Or

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sometimes it's a bull rush right up, right up the hill. So you

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have to figure that out for yourself, of course. So I just

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come back off a cruise, the reinvention retreat on the

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Renaissance cruise radiants at the sea, four day cruise, I

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highly recommend it a lot of fun. And shout out to Bobby

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Cabaniss, who put this all together. And I got to be the

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keynote speaker and open things up and set the tone. And I

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wanted to just let you know how I started my session. I had

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everybody stand up intentionally and be able to repeat after me

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that I am a work in progress. And then I hadn't shout I am a

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work in progress. And then put both hands over your heart and

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say I am a work in progress. And if you allow yourself that space

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and grace, understand that you are just a ball of clay every

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single day. Then it gets easier. It gets easier to be able to

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start your day and kick it off and try to actually get get to

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finish your day strong. And it's not every day. I It certainly

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not exposed to me as far as a cancer patient or someone

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dealing with a health crisis, or mental health issues. You know,

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the number one thing that came out of the pandemic was

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loneliness, which led to depression. And in my book, I

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refer to that as darkness. And we can choose to learn from that

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darkness, we can choose to walk in that darkness. But if you

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stay there too long, sometimes bad things happen, or things get

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worse. So we'll talk about that in a second. But what I also

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want to say is that we all start out the day, by being an all

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star, whether we know it or not, it's whether we choose to be an

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all star, can we choose to be an all star dad, mom, sister,

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brother, friend, co worker, stranger, we can, you could

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choose to become an all star each day, you're the one who

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sets the definition of how you're an all star and how you

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perform. And you look in that mirror and say, I am blessed.

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I'm grateful. We're going to make it a great day. I'm going

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to help myself and I'll help others. Good All Star start to

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the day. Anyways, I'm gonna give you your NBA. Okay, so the NBA

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of resilience. First is your mind. Who you are, who you are,

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how are you defining yourself internally? And how are you

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defining yourself externally? How are you showing up each day.

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And part of living life and what I call survivorship, is how you

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show up each day. And there are some days you just got to crawl

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back into bed. I get it, I get it. But there are other days

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where you are just beaming, and you are living a great life and

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you are actually sharing your light with others in the world.

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The next part of the NBA is your body. Where are you at

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physically? Do you feel okay? Do you want to get stronger? Do you

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need to hit the gym? Do you need to get outside? More? Do you

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need to schedule an exercise? And I actually call this finding

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your happy place in pursuit of your happy place? What is the

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happy place? How do you define it? I defined buying on the

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basketball court. I've been playing since I was six years

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old. And why I loved the basketball court because it's my

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stress free zone. I actually just nothing else matters on the

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basketball court. I was able to actually weed out anything else

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happening around me. My judgement free zone no matter if

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I play really bad or not. And I like to go there as often as

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possible. What's your happy place? Is it cooking? Is it

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yoga? Is it meditation? Is it nature? Is it hiking? Is it

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water? Is it mountains? Is it art? Find your happy place? Go

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there as much as you possibly can. And then the a of the NBA

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is your actions? Where are you going? What's your purpose

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today? Could be a simple purpose to actually just get organised.

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organising your thoughts, organising your physical

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surroundings. That's a simple action. Maybe the action is to

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go help somebody else that really needs it. Maybe you got

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to go to work like most people do. And what are you going to do

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to get your jump, job done and possibly others? It's all right.

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You got a game plan each day, that time management is really

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really important to figure that. So how are you using your MBA

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for resilience? who you are? Where are you at? Where are you

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going? Think about that. Now, the biggest part of the

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resilience code for me, is to not isolate. We're a body of

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people like animals that should be in packs. And as I said, the

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pandemic brought loneliness. So try not to isolate. But if you

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do, isolate for your reason, maybe that's your meditation.

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Maybe that's your time for planning. Maybe that's a time

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where you're actually pushing the ability to psych yourself up

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to do something great and big. It's okay. But if we isolate too

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long, as I said too bad things happen. The next thing is is

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that I'm asking everyone to be selfish expecially in your time

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and needs, who's going to take care of you but you

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who is going to take care of you but you so in your time of need.

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take care of you. But if you can't seek help, there's so many

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ways to get help. There really is. Phone a friend, find

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something online, listen to some calming music, there's ways to

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get help. And then there's actually groups, so many groups

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out there. Go be around people. And if you're able to take and

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go help somebody else, you take that spotlight off yourself. And

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you're able to be able to then not think about your situation,

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but go think about others and doing something nice for them.

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And so, this is all part of the self care, self love plan, that

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you must design for yourself, and execute. Self love equals

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self care, mentally, physically, financially, and in

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relationship. And you can choose to be kind, you can choose to be

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a giving person. Choose to be a healing person, for yourself and

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others. I absolutely recommend choosing hope. Because Hope is

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the fuel that can get you through. You can choose

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gratitude. And lastly, you can choose positivity, and that's

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list is endless. Make your own list. But that's that's the

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resiliency code. Looking within choosing some of these things,

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kindness, giving healing, hope, positivity, gratitude, applying

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them in your day. Now, I'm not going to tell you it happens

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overnight. If you tell me I want to lose 100 pounds overnight,

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I'm going to tell you that I've got some land to sell you. You

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know, in Florida that has gold on it. You have to understand

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that things take time, they are process based and keep track of

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your progress. Small wins are really important. Because the

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small wins build the momentum. And they actually show that

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you're serious. You're taking yourself serious. And that

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toughness then builds like a muscle, it gets stronger and

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stronger and stronger. And that's really being self aware

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of where you're going and what you need to do. So it's not

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magic. It's not magic. Some people have to come from further

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deep down than others. I certainly did in my two cancer

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diagnosis. But I'm here today, I am living, walking, breathing.

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I'm trying to rebuild Humpty Dumpty every single day and make

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them stronger, better faster than before. So, with that this

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is a short episode. Just want to tell you that shine brightly

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every single day for yourself, then for others than for your

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neighbourhood and your community. And I guarantee you,

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the world will become a better place. So I'm putting on my

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sunglasses. We're shining brightly. Thank you

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